Love is a difficult thing for many people to find. There are many that search for love only to find that it’s extremely elusive. However, there are patterns that develop that can help a person to be in a better position to find love through friendship and romantic relationships. In many cases, it all starts with the ability to learn to love yourself.
The Love Needed
One of the reasons why this is so important is that it’s difficult to find the love that is needed internally through the actions or involvement of another person. Having the love of a friend, spouse or partner is important and if that love isn’t there, serious questions will abound about that particular relationship. However, what many people have found is that even when that love is there, it still isn’t enough.
The Consequences Not Loving Yourself
A person may wallow in insecurities, jealousy and anger. In many cases, it’s not because the relationship and the love that they experience from other people is bad, it’s because that person lacks the ability to love themselves.
The Trap is Easy to Fall in to
This isn’t an uncommon issue. It is extremely easy to be your own worst critic. A person may defend themselves to others, but deep inside, they know who they are, they know what they do and sometimes, they aren’t pleased about the person that they truly are. In these cases, a person may use that as motivation to change; that is an important matter of personal growth.
Having realistic goals in terms of changing attitudes or behaviors is essential. Nobody is perfect, but too often people hold themselves to a standard that is unattainable. No one wants to accept failure, but being realistic about those changes, seeing the merit in the changes that have happened and how it has improved a person is one of the best ways to love yourself a bit more.
If you have good relationships with friends, a spouse or a partner, but it still doesn’t seem enough, you may need to look deeper inside of yourself. You may need to understand that in order for those things to reach their full potential in your life, you need to learn to not look for love in other people, but look for love in yourself.